Sick Day.

I'm not a panicky parent. I don't freak out too often about stuff.

At least, I don't think do.

Sure, if a kid walks in the room with a staple driven through her gums (like my sister once did), I'm going to freak the freaking freak out!  If Eliza, our 4 month old, were to hover above our bed, covered in blood, then I'm going to lose my mind.  Not saying I see that happening, but you know, babies are weird sometimes.

Today, Evie had a sore throat and complained that her neck hurt.  Immediately, my wife made a doctor appointment and called the school to let them know she would not be there today.

I took her to the doctor because, to quote my wife, "any time a child complains about their neck hurting, you should take them to the doctor because there could be a spinal injury!"

Now, it isn't like Evie's been playing full contact football. She barely watched half of the Super Bowl.  But, she does get dinged up as kids do, so I agreed to take her.

Nothing was wrong. She's got a cold.  That's it.

So she stayed home with me for the whole day for no reason, and it was fun.  We went to Burger King and got a little snack. We binge-watched some tv on Netflix.  We drove to Mandan so I could see about trading my iPhone for a Galaxy S6 (ended up backing out on the deal because the seller's phone was a little too scuffed up).  It was a good day, overall.

I'm not complaining that my wife was concerned.  I'm glad she is. It evens us out when my attitude is, "Meh, she's probably not gonna die from it."  I'm pretty grateful she keeps our kids from "probably not dying."

A Short Story Lengthened

So in a previous blog I mentioned that we moved across the country, a lot of stuff happened, and I thought I'd take a few minutes to flesh this out a little.

I left my job as a probation officer in Indianapolis on November 14th, 2014. My wife stayed behind to work and make a few extra dollars while my (then) only kid and I drove up to North Dakota.  My daughter stayed with my wife's family in one town, while I worked halfway across the state and her mom worked halfway across the country.  We were all divided up in the name of making money and getting ahead.

My wife ended up staying with her family about 4 weeks later when she moved all of our stuff into storage (with the help of her brother and mom).  So she was with our daughter while I stayed in a really, really crappy hotel. I'm talking, "I'm shocked there's not that many dead hookers in this place" bad.

I had to pass a test to keep my job. No, I had to pass a few tests to keep my job that I moved halfway across the country to work at.

And I passed them. All of them.

While I was studying and passing tests, my wife was finding us a place to live in Bismarck.  Rent here is ridiculous and nobody wanted us to bring our idiot dog. I don't blame them, I wish my wife would have "forgotten" him in Indiana.  Or maybe forgot she tied him to the bumper of the moving truck like they did in that Chevy Chase movie...

Anyway, we got all moved in and then there was talk of lay offs, or as they liked to call them, "furloughs." So I chased work.

I had to go to another city, live out of my car (only for a couple of days, thankfully), and work some more, only to ultimately be laid off after about another month, and having passed more tests that enabled me to do more work for a company that no longer needed me or about 300 other guys they'd promised "so much work and money" to that "we wouldn't know what to do with ourselves."

I roomed with my friend Justin for that month, was away from my family except when I'd got a day or two off and could drive home.

I wasn't a dad for those months I was away. I wasn't a husband. I was a constant paycheck and part-time face in the house.

At least that's how I felt.

Then I was laid off and the company that had promised so much cared just enough to remind me that Union dues would still be coming out of my last paycheck, and that my insurance would last only a few more months (which was fortunate, since we now had a baby on the way).

I was out of work for a couple of months before I could find something else that would at least offer full-time pay and benefits.  My wife found a job, despite being pregnant, working for the state.

We're far behind on bills, we're struggling to find a daycare, but at least we're all together now as a family.

We're moving forward and soon, I hope, we'll be able to look back at this year as the year we moved to North Dakota and though it began rough, it turned out great.

So there you have it. That's the basics of my last year. Sure, there's more to the story, like the names of friends I made along the way, the time I almost got ran over by a train because a coworker wasn't paying attention, and how my wife hit a deer and totaled our car... but you probably don't want to read about that stuff.

Time Flies When You Don't Blog

I've repeatedly said I'm going to start blogging again and failed to do it, so let's have none of that.

Let's begin with... what all has happened since I last blogged?

Lost a lot of weight.Got a new job in a new state. Moved. Was laid off. Went through a period of feeling sorry for myself. Gained weight back. Got another new job. Wife got a new job. Had kid number 2.

That's about it.

Here we are.  Oh, and I also tried starting a YouTube channel that got maybe 50 views.  You may have seen some of them.

So what will I talk about now that I'm "back?"

Kid number 2. Kid Number 1. Life, the universe, and everything.

Being a dad in this day and age is hard work, even with a very present wife to share the load with.  I'll talk about that in a later blog, I think, but not today.  Today, I end this blog here.

I'm back. Again. For real this time. Maybe. Sort of.

Autumn Fun

One thing I love about the age we live in is that I can make videos of my kid easily. Any time we go to the park, I can take a few hundred pictures, the phone processes everything, and turns it all into one big video.

For instance, during a recent trip home, I video recorded my dad walking around a small pond. It strangely reminded me of another video.

Anyway, I went to the park with Evie a few times over the past couple of weeks and made some great little videos. During the course of one of the little trips, I noticed a distinct pattern in my child's behavior: she is fascinated with autumn leaves.

No, check that.

She's fascinated with throwing these leaves at her dad.

Evie will run all over the park and gather up as many leaves as she can, just to disperse them at me with the highest velocity she can manage with her little arms. She's also let me know that one of her deepest desires is to make a huge pile and jump in them, but since we have currently have no yard of our own and maintenance actually does a good (albeit annoyingly so) job of keeping the leaves picked up around our home, it's hard to get that arranged.

For the moment, though, throwing stuff at her old man really seems to keep her happy. It's just leaves, it's not like she's throwing daggers or small automobiles at me, so I guess I can't complain.